‘dolli saja ke rakhna..!’

Marriage is an important or I must say one of the most important events in one’s life, if not all over the world; at least in Asia. In Pakistan and in India as well, what a bride desires the most is that her marriage should be something extraordinary in terms of ‘Halla Gulla‘. I think the groom also desires something the same… not sure… (InshAllah, when I’ll marry, I’ll observe :D)

And no doubt, we the Pakistanis and Indians enjoy our marriages the most while considering our marriage the first as well as the last one in our whole life. ;) (definitely unlike the western sort of marriages)

We have Dholak, Maayo, Hena (Mehndi), Baraat, Waleema, Doodh Pillayi, Joota Chuppayi … and many more…
(all are the names of different activities performed during the wedding ceremony)

I don’t know about all the activities but would love if someone tells the other activities.

Now, the pictures below are from the The Engineering Cooperative Housing (TECH) Society, Lahore where I saw these ‘RED’ tents quite illuminating in the dark.

http://lahore.metblogs.com/archives/images/2007/08/DSC00314_filtered-thumb.jpg

I was so impressed with the beauty that I went inside the tent to see whether the beauty is only from outside or…
But as I was thinking yet, I got my answer at my first sight of stage…
It was so beautifully decorated that one could not resist to desire for his own marriage.

http://lahore.metblogs.com/archives/images/2007/08/DSC00316_filtered-thumb.jpg

A stage decorated with flowers to make it a flowery event.

I believe it’s quite better to enjoy your marriage in the tents of your own design and decoration unlike those boring and plane marriage halls having some really fine sofas on a stage.

About the pics above, I can say that it is somewhat same what every couple dreams for or even pray for such a wonderful start of a new relation.

10 Comments so far

  1. Babar (unregistered) on August 17th, 2007 @ 5:58 am

    Mani I pray that you have a dream marriage with your dream girl (which I am sure you already have ;-) ) and be it soon. ;)


  2. Jus (unregistered) on August 17th, 2007 @ 10:06 am

    Mani. Yes please cover more topics about wedding celebrations.


  3. Fatima K. (unregistered) on August 17th, 2007 @ 3:37 pm

    I see what you mean about the beautiful arrangements done at weddings, masha Allah se. Just that personally I am of a slightly different opiinion: sometimes I can’t help but feel that all this pomp and circumstance is given for preparation for the ‘wedding’ and not the ‘marriage’ itself and I have come across so many girls who have stars in their eyes because of their dazzling wedding (masha Allah) but have a hard time adjusting to the reality of marriage and its demands.
    Of course, everything is as simple or as difficult as one would like to perceive it, but I just feel that too much attention is given to a ‘wedding’ and too less is given to the ‘marriage’ within, leading to unprepared spouses.
    Again, entirely my two cents.


  4. hira khan (unregistered) on August 17th, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

    loved it…but i m sure ..it would cost alot…..


  5. JayJay (unregistered) on August 17th, 2007 @ 6:13 pm

    “And no doubt, we the Pakistanis and Indians enjoy our marriages the most while considering our marriage the first as well as the last one in our whole life. ;) (definitely unlike the western sort of marriages)”

    >man!”And no doubt, we the Pakistanis and Indians enjoy our marriages the most while considering our marriage the first as well as the last one in our whole life. ;) (definitely unlike the western sort of marriages)”

    >man!


  6. >man!< (unregistered) on August 21st, 2007 @ 2:35 am

    @ JayJay:

    hey man!
    It was just about the majority of western sort of marriages. don’t take it personal or a comment for any one country or religion.

    And yes you are right about the independence of the women.. it realy is an important factor in a marital relationship but here in Pakistan, most of the people, especially from our rural areas don’t believe in the economic stability of women except for those who work for the cottage indutries or individually at home.

    I’m not a sociologist but still can sense that the divorce rate increases due to the independence of the both individuals in a couple..
    and you’ll admit that western culture has an increased divorce rate than at least here in Pakistan..

    I m not criticizing it. Even Islam allows the life partner to seperate from each other if they are unable to manage their marital life..
    but again, its about the society in Pakistan which do not have that much broad thinking..

    I think it could be a long discussion..
    but I’ll restrict my self here..

    and in the end..
    you are right..
    there are two different concepts..
    with good and bad points..


  7. >man!< (unregistered) on August 21st, 2007 @ 2:43 am

    @ BABAR:

    yeh to boht hi acchhi dua he pr saath hi ek boht hi barra ilzaam bhi he..
    u must not be sure about others.. :p

    I mean he to sahi pr dream girl ke saath mein dream mein boht baar shaadi kr chuka hun..
    :p

    in reality..
    there are only girls but not any dream girl..
    ;)


  8. >man!< (unregistered) on August 21st, 2007 @ 2:48 am

    @ JUS:

    hey..
    how r u..?
    its been a long time..
    and I definitely will post more topics about marriage but not let me find some good one..

    but you can share your own experience..
    whether it was in Lahori Style or something other..?


  9. >man!< (unregistered) on August 21st, 2007 @ 3:00 am

    @ Fatima:

    you are cent percent right..
    actually it’s a dark reality of (may be) a most beautiful event for some..

    but the preparation for marriage starts with the nurturing of your personality..
    I mean, there are no educational skills of how to be a good wife i.e. that how to manage your desires with the demands of your spouse..

    its really a vast topic..
    InshAllah will try to post somet thoughts about it but for that.. I definitely need a long weekend..


  10. Babar (unregistered) on August 21st, 2007 @ 5:32 am

    @Mani Usually one does not exepect such a romantic post from a guy unless he is in love head to heel. :)) Thats why.



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